I Had A GUY Best Friend Once

Sometimes the person whom we have known for years become stranger in a blink of an eye

Hi Guys,
Hope you have read our previous post about women who came out of abusive marital life and leading a happy life now.. If not, red it Here. 

Inka e post vishayam ki ochesthe, life lo manam chese konni panlu, mana best friends ni kuda strangers ni chesesthundi. Oka ammay thana life lo jarigina alanti oka incident ni, ila kuda jaruguthundi jagratha ani awareness thevadam kosam manatho share cheskunaru... In her own words...
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Karthik na intermediate lo parichayam ayadu. Chala twaraga mem best friends ayamu. Thanu Maths lo top student, naku asalu Maths antene nachadu. Sunday osthe vala intlo kani ma intlo kani naku aa week jarigina Maths classes ani malli cheppe vadu. Study hours lo ma tutors cheppe danikana Karthik chepedi baga ardam ayedi, may be thanatho nenu freega undagalagadam vale anukunta. Ma intlo valaki kuda thanante chala nammakam ochindi. Nenu Maths pass ayanu ante daniki karanam Karthik. Inter ayaka thanu oka manchi collegelo Engineering join ayadu, naku EAMCET rank raledu so nenu degree join ayanu. Ma studies veru ayna kuda ma iddari relation akadatho end avaledu.. ma friendship inka strong ayindi.. Chala sarlu thane nannu college dagara drop chese vadu. Ma college friends kuda mamalni chusi lovers aa ani adige varu, but nenu clear ga thanu na best friend ani cheppe dani. Naku Karthik ki madhya elanti secrets undevi kadu. College avagane gantalu ganatalu college vishayalu matladukune valam. Nenu thanani oka best friend ga treat chese dani, ade chanuvu tho movies ki vele valam. Thanu nannu oka boy kinda consider chesthuna ani ane vadu, so nenu chala free ga unde dani arey orey anukuntu.

Ila undaga thana life loki Ramya ochindi (in his Eng 2nd year), vala madhya relation start ayindi. Ramya ki na gurinchi cheppadu, oka ammay ga thanaki ma relation nachedi kadu. Natho limits lo undamani Karthik ki cheppedi but Karthik nannu support chesthu, she is my best friend ani explain chese vadu. I still remember, mem Ramya birthday ki movie chudaniki veldham ani 2 weeks nundi plan cheskunam, but naku movie ki velalsina roju periods ochindi and severe pain. Nenu drop ani chepppadaniki Karthik ki call chesthe thanu phone lift cheyaledu, so nenu message chesa "Period ochindi chala pain ga undi ralenu, u guys carry on" ani. E message na jeevithane marchesindi..

E message Ramya chadivi, Karthik tho godava padindi. Nenu kavala ne friend kavala decide chesko ani Karthik ki Ramya cheppi vala intiki velpoyindi. Aa roju night naku Ramya message pettindi "na birthday spoil chesinanduku chala thanks, oka ammay ga limits lo unte neku manchidi ma relation ki kuda manchidi" ani. Nenu Ramya ki call chesi explain chedham ani try chesa, but she didn't listen, nade thappu ani nannu nana matalu anindi. So inka nenu Karthik tho limits lo unta ani thanaki assurance icha.. Atu side Karthik kuda natho friendship ni limits lo pedatha ani thanaki promise chesadu. But we couldn't keep that promise.

Ramya ki theliyakunda mem matladukuntune unde valam. Oka sari thanu Karthik messages chusthunte na message kanipinchindi, adi kuda thappuga em ledu "Ramya ni kalisava, thanaki istamaina dairy milk thesukelava" ani. Ramya Karthik ni na gurinchi adigithe thanu abadam cheppadu natho asalu matladi chala rojulu ayindi ani. Apudu Ramya aa message chupinchi abadam cheppinanduku godava padindhi. E incident Ramya manasulo chala strong ga fix ayindi. She started feeling possessive about Karthik, thanaki vadu ekada dooram aypothado ana bhayam modalaindi. Nenu kanapadithe chalu thanaki mixed emotions osthay, konni sarlu friendly ga matladuthundi, konni sarlu chala thittesthundi. Vala madhya em godava ayindo theledu kani, oka roju naku Ramya message "Na Karthik ni odiley please, nuvvu natho friendly ga unte nakem problem ledu na kana best friend inkevaru undaru neku, nennu antha baga chusukunta but Karthik tho matladodhu oka ammay ga na problem ardam chesko nenu thanatho lifelong happy ga undali anukuntuna ne vala adi disturb avthundi. Please naku e help chey" ani.. Aa roju nenu kuda koncham frustration lo unde sariki kopam lo "nu madhyalo ochav, mem 4 years ga friends neku antha problem aythe vaditho matladuko natho kadu. We are best friends but ne vala mem chala distance maintain chesthunam ika nundi ala undadu mem anthaku mundu lane untam" ani message chesa. Idi na life lo nenu chesina chala pedha thappu. Aa message pattukuni thanu Karthik tho godava padindi.

Oka weekend Karthik natho matladaniki ma intiki ochadu, ika pai manam matladukuntundi asalu Ramya ki theliyakudadu, thanu chala possessive ga feel avthundi, so ma pelli ayi thanani nenu convince chese varaku thanaki theliyakudadu, thanaki nenu ardam ayela cheptha ani annadu. Nenu first oppukoledu ila, but naku Karthik friendship important ani thanu cheppina daniki oppukuni thanaki promise chesa. So we started speaking secretly, Ramya ki theliyakunda oka sim thesukuni aa number tho natho matlade vadu. Vala gurinchi prathidi naku cheppe vadu. We were happy as friends and Ramya kuda thanatho godava padadam thaginchindi. Na final year lo nenu bank exams rayadam start chesa, oka roju na exam center ma house ki chala dooramga padindi, dad kuda intlo lekapodam tho Karthik nannu center ki thesukelli thesukostha annadu, but Ramya ki e vishayam theliyakudadhu annadu. Naku ila istam ledu but vere option lekapodam vala I agreed.

Anukunatlu ga exam roju nannu center ki thesukelladu, return ochepudu oka lonely place lo bike aapi natho matladalanadu. Ramya gurinchi thanu pade godavala gurinchi cheppadu. Antha set avthundi ani nenu odarusthunte Karthik all of a sudden nannu kiss cheyadam start chesadu. Naku em jaruguthundo ardam aye lopu he hugged me, nenu thanani dooramga thosesi em chesthunav ani adiga. Thanu edo frustration lo ala chesa, adi idi ani cheppi nannu convince chesadu, inkepudu ala cheyanu ani cheppadu. Naku aa shock nundi therukodaniki Karthik tho normal ga matladaniki chala time patindi. Edo frustration lo Ramya vala visigipoyi ala chesadu ani nannu nenu convince cheskuna. Malli normal avthuna time lo oka sari Karthik ma intiki ochadu, Ramya birthday ki gift ideas adagadam kosam. Ala matladuthu undaga vadu nannu touch cheyadam start chesadu, enti idi ani adigithe ememo cheppadu, chala kopam ochindi, friend ala chesthunanduku badha anipinchindi, inkepudu ma intiki ravodu natho matladodu ani gattiga warning ichi pampesa.. Ade nenu Karthik tho matladina last day..

Oka roju Ramya ki Karthik ki godava ayindemo, Ramya naku night call chesi nannu thitteyadam start chesindi. Apudu nenu thanaki Karthik natho misbehave chesindi and nenu thanatho contact cut chesindi antha cheppa. Thanu nannu thittesindi, already chala sarlu cheppa limits lo undamani nu vinaledu, boys alane untaru adi idi ani... Valem matladukunaro emo theliyadu but valu anthaku mundula normalga untunaru.  Karthik vala naku boys and girls madhya friendship ana concept medane value poyindi. Till date aa incident gurthochinapudantha chala disturb avthanu.. E incident jarigi 2 years ayindi ipati varaku nenu Karthik tho matldadaledu.. Ramya apudapudu eduru padina asalem avanatlu normal ga oka friend ga matladuthundi, Karthik vishayam thesukuni radu naku kuda adagali anipinchadu.

e vishyam thaluchukunapudu antha okate anipisthundi ...

Dear Ramya,
Andaritho normal ga unde nuvvu na vishayam ni kuda normal ga thesukuni oka friend la accept chesi unte Karthik natho ala misbehave chese vadu kademo, inka memu friends la unde valamemo... But ala alochinchinapudantha malli nake anipisthundi, ne mata vini nenu Karthik tho limits lo undi undalsindi, friend kana wife important ani nuvvu cheppina mata ki value ichundalsindi... Andaritho normal ga unde nuvvu natho epudu kopam tho matladuthunte nenante neku istam ledu so ala chesthunav ani anukuna thappa, ne relation neku important ani, Karthik neku dooram aypothademo ana bhayam neku undi ani ardam cheskolepoyanu...  neku theliyakunda matladuthu mem ninnu cheat chesthunam ani naku ardam kaledu, ardam ayelopu idantha jarigipoyindi.. Jarigindedo jarigindi, I only wish for your happieness Ramya.

Nenu na life lo jarigina e incident vala me andariki ide cheppali anukuntuna.

* Friends madhya limits undakudadu antaru.. May be adi iddaru guys madhya or iddaru girls madhya parvaledemo. But oka girl and oka boy madhya unde friendship ki limits kachithamga undadli.
* Love chesthuna ammay ki anumanam osthe dani clear cheyandi kani anumanam perigela secret ga frienship maintain cheyodhu.
* Love or friendship ana decision thesukovalsi ochi meru love ni choose cheskunte, stick to it. Anthe kani love ni choose cheskuni, maro side friend tho secret ga matladi me girlfriend ni cheat cheyodhu.
* Oka ammay tho friend ga unte dani friendship varake unchandi, Friends with benefits ga marchodhu.
* Friend ayna sare mimalni inappropriate ga touch chesthe dani encourage cheyodu. First time ye aa friendship ni break cheyadam better, ledu ante future lo chala badha padalsi osthundi.
* Me boyfriend ki ammaylo friends unte dani friend ga mathrame accept cheyandi, meru godava padi anumaninchi me boyfriend tho godava padithe me boyfriend dani nijam chese chances chala unnay.
* Ammay lu love chesthe chala possessive ga untaru, adi boyfriend meda love, dani correct ga ardam cheskuni aa ammay feelings ki value ivandi. Anthe kani aa possessiveness ki anumanam add ayela cheyodu.
* Past lo ilanti bad incidents unte dani overcome chesi happyga undandi..

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Mistakes anedi avesam lo leka frustrationlo oka sari chesthe dani sari cheskovachu but second time repeat aythe adi mistake avadu, kavalani chesinatle avthundi.. Prathi relation ki konni limits and boundaries undali apude aa relation baguntundi.. Choose your friends wisely, evaru epudu ela maaratharo teledu, e madhya friends with benefits culture baga perigipothundi, so better safe than sorry..

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