Painful Relief

Hi,

I am Deepa (name changed to protect privacy), ever since childhood, my only ambition was to settle in a very good career and lead a life of my dreams. I have completed B.Tech and grabbed a job in a reputed company. I got placed in a good project after initial training. I was working hard to improve my technical knowledge.

One day my father called me up and said that I got a good marriage proposal from a guy of our community in the same town. I was not sure what to decide so asked some time to decide on this. Few days after this discussion, I went home and my parents told me about the guy and his family. After few days he called me and we spoke for few hours. The guy spoke well, his family has a good reputation, he was the only son and they are financially more stable than us. I didn't find any reason to reject the match, so I accepted to get married to him.  I and my parents were happy, I felt like I am the luckiest girl.. Little did we know that this marriage will be landing me in hell..

Everything went smoothly for few months until one day, he came late around 2 AM in a drunken state and started abusing me without any reason.. Day by day his abuse both physically and mentally increased. I tried to please him, I used to express my love, I used to plead him,  I have tried all the ways that I could to change him.  None of them worked. Many times I wanted to end my life but couldn't dare enough. One day he kicked me, grabbed my hair and told me that he would kill me. I  was scared to death but somehow managed to escape from him, I went into our bedroom, locked it up and called to my parents and in-laws, explained them about the situation I am in.  It was a kind of a shock to them. That was the worst sleepless night I ever had. My in-laws and parents rushed to our home by morning. I came out of my room after his parents have reached our home. My father in law scolded him for the way he behaved and my parents pleaded him to change. After a huge discussion of about a week, he apologised to me and promised them that he would take care of me properly. After two days my parents n father in law left to our hometown, my mother in law stayed back with us to make sure that things get well between us.

He started coming to the home early, he started spending time with me more. We used to go out for dinner and movies.. He changed a lot, we started believing him again. Almost after a month, my mother in law left to our hometown.. He still remained good. One day I got positive when checked for pregnancy, in pregnancy home kit. So I asked him to fix a doctor appointment for me for getting confirmation regarding pregnancy. As like others, I expected him to be happy, but he asked me who was the father of the kid. I felt as if the ground I stood was shaking. Tears started rolling, I asked him why he was behaving in such a way.. Then again he started abusing me, gave me a tight slap because of which my nose started bleeding.. All the happiness of becoming a mother vanished. The animal in him woke up again which started preying on me daily. I couldn't bare the pain anymore and I don't want my kid to grow in the kind of environment I am living..  So I have decided to get separated from him. I have told my decision to my parents and in-laws. My in-laws wanted me to give him another chance but I firmly stood on my decision. With the help of my parents, I have lodged a case on him and asked for the divorce. He denied as my parents asked him to return dowry. Me being a pregnant used to go to counselling just with a hope that he would change at least for my baby's sake, but he didn't. He rejected accepting the baby as his, which completely broke my heart. During counselling, he shamelessly agreed that he used to beat me.  I have delivered a baby boy and parents called my husband to give the news but he spoke ill of me and my baby.

After many counselling sessions, he told that he would give me divorce only if I do not ask for alimony. I agreed and all these proceedings took more than a year to complete and finally after many counselling sessions, many tears, many sleepless nights, I got divorced, three years back. My parents and friends supported me during this hard phase of my life. Initially, my mom used to stay with me to take care of my kid.

Now I am a single mother of a 3-year-old, I became strong and leading a happy life with my kid. There are many people like me in this world with a broken relationship with husband yet leading an inspiring life. I drew my inspiration from such people and I save each and every penny I earn, for the future of my kid. I am teaching my kid the value of people around. My only goal now is to raise my kid and make him a responsible person, unlike his father.. Every now and then my kid asks me about his father that is the time I feel like hugging my kid and crying my heart out about the atrocities his father made on me.. but I hold back. I'll tell my kid about his father when he reaches an age when he could understand the difference between good and bad...

People who know nothing about me think that I am a conjus. Few people who know about me try to show sympathy and few blame me for everything.. I am not living for them, so I do not care what people think of me or comment about me. I do not want sympathy.. All I want is the happiness of my kid and his future.. Few people ask me if I'll accept my husband if he comes back. My answer is NO NEVER !!!

All I want to tell to you people out of my experience is "Get married when you got to know completely about the one whom you are marrying. If something goes wrong, do not try to kill yourself. Things may seem bad at the moment but they will definitely change, all you require is the strength to fight back. Please do not judge a person by the way they look, you never know what they are dealing with."

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