My Parents Extramarital Affair took a heavy toll on my Life|| Go Let's Live

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Hope everyone is doing good. Hope you guys have read our previous story about a woman who overcame the trauma of sexual abuse. If not, read it here. Today, I came up with a story of a woman who overcame the trauma her parents caused. 

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Andariki parents tho chala manchi relation and valatho sweets memories untayi, kani maku mathram parents ante  marchipoleni oka nightmare. Ma amma ki chala chinna age lo pelli ayindi, pelli ayna next year ki nenu puttanu and nenu puttina 2 years ki thammudu chinnnu puttadu. Na chinnapati nundi ma parents epudu godava paduthune unde varu, reason ento naku ardam ayedi kaadu. Ma nana roju intiki oche varu kadu, amma ni adigithe "nana uru velaru" ani cheppedi.. Nenu 6th classlo undaga, oka roju ma intlo chala pedha godava ayindi, ma relatives andaru ocharu. Apudu thelisindi ma nana ki ma chinnu kadupulo unnapati nundi oka widow tho extra marital affair undi anduke intiki oche varu kadu ani. E affair vala ma parents epudu godava paduthune unde varu, ma nana gurinchi thelisina konni months ki ma amma kuda marokari tho close ayyindi. Adi ma nana ki thelisi andarni pilichi panchayithi pettaru. Ma amma ma nana ni odhu ani andari mundu chepesindi. Pedha valu entha compromise cheyali ani chusina ma parents convince avaledu, danitho pedha manushula mundu valu vidipoyaru.

Valu vidipoyina tharvatha konni nelalu varaku amma thone unnam. Oka roju malli panchayithi pettaru ma amma nana. Ma nana extra marital affair yevaritho aythe undindo aamene pelli cheskovali ani decide ayyaru. Mamalni nana dagarake pampali ani aa panchayiti pettaru, kani amma oppukoledu. Chivariki pedha manushulu ma life spoil avakudadu ani kontha property ma names meda rapinchi education ki ayye karchu parents iddaru share cheskovali ani final chesaru. Daniki ma nana oppukuni inkepudu ma amma jeevithamlo involve avanu, aame evarnana pelli cheskovachu ani note rasi ichesaru. Ma nana pelli ayna konni months ki ma amma marokarni pelli cheskundi. Ochina step dad ki mem amma tho undadam istam ledu so ma ammama vala dagara unchela ammani convince chesi pelli cheskunaru. Ila 2 years lo ma family motham chellacheduru aypoyindi. 

Ma ammama valadi village akada proper education undadu ani mamalni city lo hostel lo join chesaru. Ma amma nana money pampe varu thappa kanesam oka sari kuda ochi chusi vellaledu. Ye holidays ochina migatha students andariki vala parents ochi intiki thesukuni velle varu, mamalni mathram ma thathaya thesukuni velle varu. Friends andaru me parents enti epudu raru ani  adigithe em cheppalo ardam avaka narakam chuse valam. School lo kontha mandi maku parents lerani anukunte inkontha mandi memante istam leka ma amma nana mamalni odilesi velpoyaru anukune varu. Aa age lo ilanti matalu vintu narakam lo unatlu unde valam hostello. Hostel lo marokaritho kalisi aadukovalana bhayame, valem adugutharo ani, ala friends kuda thakkuva aypoyaru maku. Oka aadapillaga nenu edchi na badha therchukune dani kani ma thammudu ki adi kuda ledu. Edisthe thana friends tease chese varu ani vadu edavadam kuda manesadu. Ma thathaya ni oka roju enduku ila avthundi ma amma nana enduku raru ante meru baga settle aythe me growth chusi vala mistake valaki ardam ayyi me dagara ostharu ani chepparu. Aa kasi tho nenu ma thammudu chala baga chadive valam, manchi marks ochinapudu valu raledu, manchi job ochinapudu kuda valu raledu. Amma osthundemo ani eduru chusina prathi sari maku edupe migiledi. Make avasaram ochina ammama thataya oche valu. Nenu hostel lo undaga mature ayyanu. Ma teacher ma nana ki phone chesi chepthe aayanochi ma ammama vala intlo dincharu. Edo thappadu anatlu function roju ma amma and thanu pelli cheskuna uncle (shaminchandi thanani step dad or dad or nana ani memu analemu. Alane ma dad pelli cheskuna ammeni kuda accpet cheyalemu) ochi clothes sweets and gold haaram okati pettesi velpoyaru.  Anni dagarundi ammama thataya chusukunaru.

Nenu inter lo undaga heart attack tho thathaya chanipiyaru. Apudu ochindi ma amma thana daughter tho. Oka pakka thathaya chanipoyina badha maroka pakka amma pakkane unna thana prema maku ledu kanesam amma ani piliche chance kuda ledu ana badha. Thana daughter ki annam thinipisthu mamalni kanesam thinara leda ani kuda adagaledu.  Nenu vala dagara kanesam oka nimisham undalekapoyedani. Chinnu aythe valu unnarani room nundi bayata ravadam kuda maanesadu. Ma amma anni rojulu matho unna premaga ma dagara ochi matladindi ledu kanesam em chaduvthunamo ela unnamo ani kuda adagaledu. Aame matho emotionally disconnect aypoyindi ani apude ardam ayindi. 

Ma iddari education ma intlo avasaralu kuda ma nana ne chusukune varu. Nana epudu ma dagara ochina aayana wife kuda ochedi thana daughter and son (aameki n aame first husband ki puttina kids) tho aame maku entha dagara avali, matladali ani chusina aameni chusthe kopam ochedi validaru chesina panike ma lives ila ayyayi ani.

Nenu degree lo undaga ma amma valu Dubai velpoyaru. Apati nundi ipati varaku nenu aameni direct ga chusindi ledu. Apudapudu amma vala husband Facebook lo pettina photos chusthanu, chala happyga enjoy chesthu photos pedatharu adi chusinapudantha e aanandam maadi ana feeling osthundi.. Ma happiness ni laagesukuni vala kids ki panchuthunatlu anipisthundi. Na studies ayyi nenu job chesthu pelli ayentha varaku more than 13 years hostel lo unnanu. Inni years lo ma amma ma hostel ki ravadam asalu naku gurthe ledu. Kani vala daughter tho trips ki tours ki velthundi. Mem kuda thanake puttam kada, ma nana thappu chesthe siksha maakenduku. Kanesam yearly oka sari ochi matho premaga undi velochu kada. Enno questions undevi oka daniki kuda answer ledu.

Amma maku dooram ga unna thane kavali anipisthundi. Nana enni sarlu ochina nana meda kopam poyedi kadu. Aayani accept cheyalekapoyevalam. Oka aadapillaga parents ila chesaru ante aa impact na meda chala undindi.  Manaushula pai nammakam undedi kadu. Evaritho matladali anna bhayam vesedi, amma avasaram unne ye situation lo maku amma ledu. Andaru ma mundu manchiga unna ma venaka chala matalu anukune valu. Friends relatives andaru jaali chupinche vare thappa premaga unde valu evaru leru.  Mosam chesina vadiki puttamu ani ma amma ki ma meda kopam. Ma nana thappu chesthe  maku punishment ivadam entha varaku correct anadaniki maku ipati varaku answer dorakaledu. Inka pai kuda dorakademo. Oka pakka ma amma thana kids tho maro country lo happy ga undi, inkoka pakka ma nana maroka lady ki puttina kids ni thana kids ga accept chesi bane unnaru, madhyalo memu em thappu chesamani maku intha pedha punishment ani edavani roju ledu. 

Ma ammama thathaya tharvatha naku antha prema malli na husband dagare dorikindi. Aayanaki na gurinchi complete ga thelisi vala parents ni convince chesi nannu pelli cheskunta ani ma ammama ni nana ni adigaru. Valu opukuni ma pelli chesaru. Asalu naku pelli meda manchi opinion ye undedi kadu, pelli ante vala avasaralaki chesukuni avasaram theeripoyaka odilestharu ana feeling strong ga nalo fix aypoyindi. Istam lekundane ma ammama mata ki viluva ichi pelliki ready ayyanu. Ma nana naku kanyadaanam chestha annaru kani daniki nenu ma thammudu opukoledu ayana chesindi marchipoleka. Wedding card ma amma ki pampithe aame maku pelli karchulaki money bank account lo vesindi. Pelliki asalu rane ledu. oka amma manasu intha katinam ga cruel ga untunda? Ipatiki amma ki anthaku mundu pelli ayindi iddaru pillalu unnaru ani thana present kids ki theliyadu. Thanaki puttina mamalni oka burdenga chusthu maroka iddaru pillani antha prema chusukuntundi oka manishi lo intha dual shades untaya anipisthundi. Ma amma maku entha dooram unna may be thana life lo evo problems undi untayi anduke mamalni dooram peduthundi anipisthundi. Ipatiki na pellilo ma amma nana kalisi leru ana badha untundi. Pelliki ochina okokaru okola ma family gurinchi chala cheap ga matladukunaru. Aa matalu vinapaduthuna kuda react avaleni paristhiti madi.

Pelli ayna kothalo ma husbandni accept cheyalekapoye dani thanu kuda ma nana la marokari dagara velipotharu anukunedani. Chala months nenu na husband ni dagaraki ranivaledu. Thanu prema chupinchadaniki try chsina elano konni years ayaka marokari dagaraki velpotharu kada adedo ipude velpondi ani arichedani. Aayana nenu chese chala vatini baristhu ocharu, na kopam na mood swings anni baristhu ocharu. Aayana prema ardam ayaka aayanatho happyga untuna. Nenu na husband matladukuni okati decide ayyanu, repu okari meda marokariki prema thaggipoyi vidipoye paristhithiki ochina kuda ma pillalni parents unna anadhala penchakudadu ani. Kani touchwood, na husband epatiki nannu odili marokari dagara vellarana nammakam naku aayana meda kaligindi. Chinnapati nundi chala sarlu chanipovali anukune dani kani ala chanipoyi unte ipudu unna happy life miss aypoyi undedi. Oka roju Priyanka tho matladaka forgiveness ki unna power ardam ayindi, ma Nana chesindi mistake anduke ma life ila spoil ayindi ani ayanani hate chesthu ochanu kani ma Amma chesindi kuda mistake ye kada. Husband thappu chesthe either correct cheyali or else vidipoyaka maroka life vethukovali. Kani ma amma e two options kakunda third option choose cheskundi. Ma father di entha mistake undo ma mom di kuda anthe mistake undi. Ma father chesina mistake ki konni yearsga aayna ma dagara ochina mem chi kottam thappa ayanani accept cheyaledu, ade aayanaki pedha punishment ani ardam ayindi. Ipudipude ma Nana tho nenu matladuthuna. Ma amma kuda twaralo matho matladithe bagundu. Maku ma amma nana aasthi lo vata em odhu, kanesam society lo vala pillalaga identity kuda odhu, yearly once matho oka roju premaga spend chesthe chalu. Oka aadapillaga thalli avasaram unna prathi chota ma amma Naku ledu, Nana unna ayanani memu dagara ranivaledu. Alanti paristhithi evariki ravodu. Naku Amma ledu ana badha thappa inkem lotu lekunda ma husband and in-laws chusukuntunaru. Ipudu life lo unna negatives kana kuda positives ni cherish cheyadam nerchukunanu.  

***Names changed to protect privacy.

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So guys, idandi mana one of the reader story, e story trough nenu meku ivi cheppali anukuntunanu..

1. Pelli and life gurinchi clarity leni stage lo pelli cheskovadu.. Chinna age lo pellilu cheskunte life lo oche problems ni face cheyaleru and ila external attractions kuda osthayi. Mana older generations lo chinna age lo pelli ayyayi ante valu em ochina adjust avthu brathikaru but mana generationki idi set avadu

2.  Okarni pelli cheskunaka valake kattubadi undani marokari jeevitham lo velodu, valani ranivodu.

3. Meku me life partner meda prema pothe extra marital affairs pettukokunda legal ga vidipoyi apudu marokarni pelli cheskondi.

4. Husband and wife ga vidipothe me pillalni anadala odileyodu.  Kanesam year ki oka sari ayna velli valani chusi valatho gadipi randi, vala kashta-sukalu thelusukuni randi. Parents vidipoyina, emana kashtam osthe meru (parents ga) unnaru ana barosa me kids ki ivvandi.

5. Parents ga meru chese thappula vala me pillalu lifelong insecurity tho, bhayamtho, avamanalu paduthu brathakalsi osthundi.

6. Meku thelisina valu ilanti situations lo unte vala pai jaali chupinchodu. 

7. Me extra marital affairs ki elanti situations ayna lead cheyanivandi mimalni nammukuni ochina valani cheat cheyodu. Ilanti situations osthe meru me partner tho vidipondi thappu valu chesaru ani meru kuda thappu cheyodu.

 
" Parents' extramarital affair take a heavy toll on their kids. It can result in emotional trauma, depression, anxiety and many more mental issues in the kid. So please don't give pain to your kids."

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Signing off for now.

Priyanka.